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the most important thing i learned in college

In my last year of college, I took intro to journalism. Yep, INTRO to Journalism just a few months before I graduated. (Sidebar: The class was mostly seniors, so I guess it’s common to save specific concentration courses for the final semesters…once all the rigorous liberal arts curriculum has been completed.) I loved this course, and it reminded why I chose my Communications/Journalism major–why after years of people telling me what a great writer I am, I put two and two together and decided to pursue something I was actually good at. A big reason why I enjoyed this class so much was the very down-to-earth professor I had. She was a Fordham alum, who started teaching after working in news radio for a while, but was still young enough to be fun and approachable.

Since the class was mostly seniors, our final session was reserved for an advice session from our professor. She gave a lot of useful advice, but one thing really stuck out to me: the pace of our lives. Until now, everyone’s lives moved at the same pace. All of my friends and I started high school at the same time. We started getting jobs and babysitting at the same time. We took driver’s ed and got our licenses at the same time. We graduated in four years, bound for college straightaway. Even though we ventured far away from one another, we all graduated on time and many of us even studied abroad the same semester. In essence, the timing of our lives lined up perfectly.

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But now, my professor said, there’s no longer a set path–things are going to start happening at a different pace for everyone. People will get married a year after graduation, or ten years after, or never. Other people will start having babies, or buying cars and houses, or move to Prague to teach English. The point is that just because someone else does one or all of these things before you, it doesn’t mean that you’re behind, or that you’re missing something or living your life wrong.

This realization was super significant for me. I always feel frantic when my friends start new relationships or get new jobs because I feel like I skipped a step, like I missed a class and now I won’t do as well on the final exam. It’s hard to sign into Facebook and see photos from someone’s bridal shower, or posts of someone else’s fancy new apartment, or hear about yet another person’s promotion at work. Just because it’s not happening to you, doesn’t mean that you’re falling behind in life (at least according to Professor J.). I’m a big believer in following my gut, and I’m also a big believer in putting my happiness first. Everything else will come when the time’s right.

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missed connections

7/1/16

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We’ve all had those moments of total exhaustion–those instants where you could fall asleep at the drop of a hat, whether you’re under-caffeinated at your office or overeating popcorn at the movies. In high school, I would literally fall asleep sitting in class (what was with 7am attendance?!).

One of the places where I struggle to stay awake every morning is on the train to work. My commute is painfully long, and I usually only have time to drink one cup of coffee before leaving the house (not my preferred three). I stay awake on the subway by playing games on my phone or reading, but almost every day I see somebody doze off, their head falling to their neighbor’s shoulder before jolting awake from either embarrassment or a not-so-smooth train ride.

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Last week, a mega-hot guy who was clearly overworked dozed off a number of times in the packed train car, and his head landed on my shoulder more than once. I had no complaints…in a city where everyone can seem so cold, it’s a gentle reminder of humanity.

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death by apartment hunting

I think it was Carrie Bradshaw who said that everyone in New York is always looking for either a job, a boyfriend, or an apartment. Or something like that. You all know I’ve been looking for a boyfriend, but my most recent crisis is finding a new place to live. The lease is up on my Bronx college apartment next month, so I’m frantically searching for something that lives up to my (way too high) expectations. After four years of living with roommates, I was hoping to be able to find an affordable studio apartment so I could fly solo, but that doesn’t seem to be happening. How TF did Carrie do it?

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Most of my classmates are from the tri-state area, so they’re able to move back home and commute to NYC. Unfortunately, I don’t have that option–this is the only time I’ll ever regret not being from New Jersey. To make matters worse, many of the places I’ve found are only available for the rest of the summer, and since I need a July move-in date, I’m feeling pretty screwed. And what is with people having cats? I’m super allergic (plus terrified of litter boxes), and every other apartment listing on Craigslist says “must love cats.” If it’s not a cat, it’s a fourth floor walk-up. Or a $100 credit check. Or a 15% broker fee.

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Like, I’ve given up on having an exposed brick wall and a walk-in closet–but why is it so difficult to find a room big enough for my twin-sized bed and bureau without borrowing money from my parents? If you have any tips or need a roommate (I cook! I bake! I make great cocktails! I always have wine!) hit me up ASAP.

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confidence = major 🔑

For most of my life, I’ve been forgettable–and I’ve been good at it. Remember that scene in “The Princess Diaries” when someone literally sits on Anne Hathaway/Mia Thermopolis because they didn’t even notice she was there? That should give you an idea of how I felt up until a few years ago. In high school I was drafted as “shy” and “quiet,” two adjectives I would never assign to my current self. My freshman year of college I would go to parties and bars and meet lots of different people–but when I waved to them the next day, I’d be greeted with a lack of recognition.

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I feel that I’ve become more assertive over the past two years, with a tremendous change when I studied abroad. Amsterdam means SO much to me, and my growth in independence is one of the reasons why. I learned more about myself in five months of living there than the past three years of college. I did things I wanted, when I wanted. I made friends with the guy who freed my bike after I broke the padlock’s key…so the next time it happened, he volunteered to help once more. I dyed my hair blonde. I biked miles and miles. I looked at art. I ate lots of stroopwafels. I started drinking beer. I started liking beer. I constantly, consistently was in awe of the city’s beauty. One year later, I’m still not sure how it’s possible for a place to be so stunning.

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This past year, I’ve started being more confident in my career goals and skills. I learned to work on a team–on a professional level. I learned how to say no. I started asking for what I want. And now that a brand new, unplanned, simultaneously terrifying/exhilarating chapter of my life is beginning, I’m excited to continue growing.

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when you are totally 10000% done with college

Lately, I’ve just been super over Fordham. I know I’ve written a number of nostalgic posts about finishing my final semester here, but as graduation gets closer, I’m finally feeling ready to just be done with everything.

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Thanks to my work schedule, I wake up at 8am everyday, so I insist on being in bed by midnight (if you had told my freshman self this is where I’d be at 22, I don’t think she would’ve believed you).

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As a result, my social life has definitely been dwindling, and I really haven’t cared too much. It’s kind of refreshing to have a schedule and responsibilities.

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While I’m not super thrilled to be working for the rest of my life, I’m definitely ready for the exciting things to come in the next few years.

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spring cleaning, wallet-style

Spring is finally here! (Knock on wood). It’s almost time to swap out my 8,000 pairs of boots for their open-toe counterparts, swear off hot coffee until October, and retire my (faux) fur coat until next season. Spring is also a great time for…cleaning! Especially cleaning up your finances, now that the holidays are long gone and spring break trips have been paid for. As a college student rapidly approaching graduation, I’ve definitely started feeling pressure to be frugal until I get a job squared away. In the meantime, here are some of my tips for keeping your wallet as full as possible!

1. Turn off auto-reload on your Starbucks card. It sounds brutal, I know, but when things like spending are set to autopilot they become super easy to ignore. Make the most of your Starbucks membership and take advantage of their frequent promotions. My office has a decent coffee machine, so I’ve officially run out of excuses for spending $5 on a latte.

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2. Clean out your closet. Spring is a great time to get rid of shoes, clothes, purses, etc. since you’re probably already swapping winter wear for springtime clothing in your closet. My favorite place to get rid of stuff is eBay, but I’ve heard great things about sites like Tradesy and Poshmark. You can literally post stuff for sale through your iPhone, and drop it in a mailbox once it sells. I’m the laziest person ever and eBay gets my approval for the easiest way to make money.

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3. Cancel any & all magazine subscriptions. As someone who works in the magazine/digital publishing industry, this is a bit painful, but I can’t remember the last time I had a magazine subscription, let alone time to read one. Transition yourself into online content, which is way more fun to read anyway, and take advantage of student access on sites like the New York Times. If you’re a magazine aficionado, or travel a lot and find yourself spending $5 a pop on mags at the airport, definitely look into Texture, an amazing app that has the digital version of (basically) every magazine, every month. It’s $10/month, but could totally be worth it.

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4. Make your credit card work for you. I get the most points back on my credit card for groceries, so that’s primarily what I swipe that baby for. Large credit card companies always have great promotions going on…I know I’ve gotten cash back for registering my Amex in programs like Small Business Saturday and Restaurant Week. If you’re traveling, definitely look into hotel add-on offers, deals on car rentals, and flight promotions. Companies like Credit Card Insider have tons of information on how to get the most out of your credit cards!

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What are your suggestions for financial spring cleaning? I’d love to hear!

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pin-spiration: apartment decor

So my high school Pinterest addiction recently resurfaced, and to make my week a little more inspired, I’ve decided to start doing a round up of my latest favorite images. Every Wednesday, I’ll share a couple of pins from the same category that I’ve fallen in love with. For this first installation, I’m featuring apartment decor. Since I currently live in a small apartment, and probably will continue living in small apartments for the next ~10 years of my life, this is a pretty relevant category for me. Anyway, enjoy!

1. This gold bar cart.

I love cocktails–inventing them, mixing them, and drinking them. I have a bar cart in my apartment now, but I love this metallic upgrade.

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2. This gallery wall.

Since I can’t paint my rental, hanging pictures and art on the walls is a must. Pretty images over a desk makes for an inspired home office. I’m also really into that mustard chair.

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3. Oversize cushions in lieu of a sofa.

These can be stacked up and put away to create more space for yoga/dance parties/craft projects, and are way easier to carry up the stairs of your next walk-up.

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4. This shoe ladder.

Though this takes up a bit of space, I love this idea for displaying shoes…especially since it would let me admire the pairs I don’t get to wear everyday.

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5. This indoor herb garden.

I love how this is equal parts decorative + practical. It’s always great to have fresh herbs in reach when you’re in the kitchen, plus I’m sure that basil smells amazing.

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All images c/o Pinterest.com

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