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legitimate questions and concerns

I recently finished reading Mindy Kaling’s Why Not Me?, and you ALL should read it. Like, I read it in two days commuting to work and literally burst out laughing so people on the train thought I was crazy. You should also read her first book, all her tweets, and anything else she has ever written ever. Mindy is someone I respect a whole lot, and I feel so lucky to have a funny person who isn’t a size zero as a role model. In her newest book, she brings up a list of questions and concerns called “4am Worries.” I related to a lot of them (I will never have a husband and all of my female acquaintances will) and laughed at others (Why was there so much hair in the shower drain? Am I going bald? Will I need to invest in a wig?).

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As someone who regularly cannot fall asleep because I’m too busy picturing worst-case-scenarios and wondering what I’m doing with my life, I have my own list of 4am worries.

Will I ever be able to afford a house?

Why don’t I have a boyfriend? Do I even want a boyfriend?

What if I wait too long to get married and my dad won’t be there to walk me down the aisle?

What if I wait too long to have kids and neither of my parents are here anymore?

Do I have the Alzheimer’s gene?

What if my friends stop wanting to be friends with me?

What is a 401k? What is social security? How does a mortgage work? Do I need to hire an accountant to do my taxes? Is it OK that I’m 22 and my dad still does them for me?

Did I pay my credit card bill on time?

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what your choice of dating site says about you

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I’m (OBVIOUSLY) no stranger to dating apps. In fact, I’ve tried just about every single one. In using everything from Tinder to OkCupid, I’ve learned a thing or two about the kinds of people each app attracts. Here, what your preferred app says about Y-O-U.

1. Bumble

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You’re an over-achiever. All of your social media platforms are totally professional, and there isn’t a keg stand photo of you to be found on the Internet. If you’re a female user, you’re cool, confident, and collected–and if you’ve managed to get lucky on Bumble, I’m betting you have a stockpile of witty pick-up lines (please send over). If you’re a male user, you’ve either been raised to appreciate women or are lazy AF.

2. Tinder

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You’re not here for anything serious. Chances are, you like the instant gratification of swiping and matching with someone, and have a hard time making long-term commitments. You’re likely a nomad, jack-of-all trades, who can’t stay in one place for too long. If you’re a male user, you’re drawn to Tinder by its ease of use and unspoken promise of a hook-up.

3. OkCupid

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You prefer browsing singles on desktop rather than mobile, or maybe you like the flexibility to do both. If you’re a male user, you’re highly aggressive–since you don’t have to “match” with someone before you start a convo, you can literally message anybody. If you’re a female user, you probably know someone who met their husband on OkCupid (literally a one in a million chance), and joined with a faint hope of finding something real. Also, you probably like attention since you’ll get approximately 400 messages a day.

4. Happn

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This one is for anyone who regularly trolls the missed connections section on Craigslist (guilty 🙋). You’re a hopeless romantic who believes in fate and chance encounter. Good luck out there.

5. Match

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You’re ready for commitment and financially stable enough to pay for a dating site membership. You’ve probably used all of the above apps to no avail, and finally caved for something that promises results. You’re someone who doesn’t like bullshit, and regularly mutters “I’m too old for this.”

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why i deleted tinder

I’ve blogged quite a bit in the past about my experience using Tinder (and even checking out Bumble, Match.com, and some other sites). Lately, I have been feeling really “over” the idea of dating, especially via mobile app. Since getting a real job and becoming more of an adult, I’ve decided to start investing more in myself–whether it’s pursuing creative pursuits (like this one) or making time for things that are important to me.

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When I first downloaded Tinder, it was little more than a game. Of course, there was that lurking, secret desire that I’d find my soulmate through a silly app, but that hope has pretty much been dashed. My dating experience over the past two years has been filled with a lot of first dates, a lot of mixed signals, and ultimately, a lot of my time, energy, and emotions being wasted. I have no interest in waiting around for my phone to buzz or wondering if I said the wrong thing or acted the wrong way.

I recently saw a post on Man Repeller that really just hit home for me. “We need a romance revolution. No more games, no more guessing and no more wondering. We should all say how we feel, and not be afraid to say, “I love you.” Let’s commit to relationships! And treat each other equally.” Amen, Brisa Gomez. In the meantime, the swiping and super-liking are on hold, and I’m pretty sure I’ll be just fine.

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7 times kimye was relationship goals

If you didn’t know, I’m a big fan of Kim and Kanye’s relationship. Since day one, I’ve said they’re perfect for each other–they’re both so self-obsessed that they don’t need the other to be obsessed with them. Make sense? Anyway, I’ve loved Kanye’s music since eighth grade, so I’ve always been a supporter of his work. And you might be familiar with my fascination with the Kardashian clan, so their marriage was, like, kind of a big deal for me. Here are some of their cutest moments, inspiring this post about #RelationshipGoals.

1. When Kanye looked at his girl like the goddess she is.

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2. When Kanye found out Kim had never been to Japan.

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3. Don’t forget about that legendary proposal. (And check out that toothpaste-commercial worthy smile).

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4. When Kanye didn’t use his only phone call to call Kim and she wasn’t even mad.

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5. When they were insanely cute at their Vogue cover shoot.

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6. When they were totally honest with each other. #SelfLove

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7. When they started a family and got even cuter!!

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My girl Mindy said it best.

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missed connections

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Have you ever observed someone for a matter of minutes and just know you’d get along? Like, I’m pretty sure that’s how friendships work. You pick people who seem cool and decide that you want them to be in your life even if you’ve only known them for a short time (I met my college best friend literally the third day of school). And the only requirement for someone to be my friend is to have a similar sense of humor to mine.

So, seeing a hipster guy reading Why Not Me when I looked up from my game of Tetris made my heart beat a little faster. Mindy Project and chill?

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Follow the missed connections series here, or submit your own via email.

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when you are totally 10000% done with college

Lately, I’ve just been super over Fordham. I know I’ve written a number of nostalgic posts about finishing my final semester here, but as graduation gets closer, I’m finally feeling ready to just be done with everything.

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Thanks to my work schedule, I wake up at 8am everyday, so I insist on being in bed by midnight (if you had told my freshman self this is where I’d be at 22, I don’t think she would’ve believed you).

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As a result, my social life has definitely been dwindling, and I really haven’t cared too much. It’s kind of refreshing to have a schedule and responsibilities.

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While I’m not super thrilled to be working for the rest of my life, I’m definitely ready for the exciting things to come in the next few years.

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when you’ve been single for your entire life

This is how I feel all the time. #Relatable

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