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when did i get into fashion again?

When I was a kid, I thought I was super into fashion. I held on to every copy of Teen Vogue that came in the mail (a subscription that I begged for) (also remember when magazines were printed 10x a year??) and later moved over to NylonI took a fashion drawing class. I went to a weekend conference sponsored by Conde Nast. I interned for a CFDA-sponsored jewelry designer. It was all fun, at least until my other interests began to take precedent.

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Fashion wasn’t something I ever considered pursuing as a career, especially in terms of designing. In my later years of high school and through college I lived in yoga pants and gym clothes, too busy to put an outfit together for just an ordinary day of classes and homework. But since graduating, I’ve worked some jobs that have had incredibly boring elements. There have been times where I haven’t felt creatively stimulated at all, and I think this is why I started caring about clothes again.

I majorly purged my closet this month, “reinventing” my style…finally feeling like I have a solid sense of what I like, what looks good on me, and what’s worth buying. It took me a long time to shift into a quality over quantity mindset, but instead of bingeing on Black Friday sales this year, I bought a few key, upscale pieces (still on sale, of course) that I know I’ll have and wear for years.

Working 40 hours a week in a job that doesn’t require a ton of creativity seems like something I will feasibly be doing for the rest of my life. So I should at least wear clothes that make me feel like myself.

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when corinne starts being relatable

I’m guessing many of you have been watching The Bachelor, or at least have heard about the juicier events of the season through the grapevine. Enter: Corinne. I was not a fan of Corinne from day one, but was not surprised when, time and time again, Nick continued to give her roses. (Nick sucks.)

Corinne is the kind of entitled person I’ve always disliked. I placed her in the category of people who have wealthy parents to pay for their rent and donate their way into college. Regardless, Corinne’s exit from the show last week was relatable AF.

I remember watching Bachelor in high school and everyone seemed so much older than me and at such different points in their lives than I was–but now, there are contestants who are the same age as me (or just a year or two older), and I can relate to their occupations and relationship histories. Corinne’s speech in the back of the limo was just super relatable…why can’t I have a normal relationship? I just want love the way it’s supposed to be, too!!

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the biggest thing NYC ruined for me

I always loved grocery shopping. Even after working at the local supermarket in high school and in the summer when I came home from college, I was never wary of the shiny linoleum aisles and well-stocked shelves.

This is because grocery shopping in a pleasant suburb is completely unlike shopping in New York. Suburban supermarkets get those cool, limited edition products (like peppermint Chobani) while NYC vendors sell crap you forgot existed (remember Kudos bars?). And then there are the prices. $7.99 for a half-gallon of ice cream. $4.99 for a gallon of milk. $7 for a carton of strawberries. All of these things are usually around $3 at my hometown grocery store.

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At the store in my hometown, you can push a full-sized shopping cart down each wide aisle, taking your time to choose the right items. You can buy 12-pack cans of soda, 16-count packs of paper towels, and other heavy items, knowing you just have to wheel them out to your SUV and drive home, traffic-free. In New York, I can only buy what I can carry (unless I spring for an Uber).

But it gets worse…the crowds! I have never found NYC to be overwhelmingly crowded, except in midtown during the holidays. Trader Joe’s on a Saturday afternoon is unlike anything I’ve ever seen. When I lived in Brooklyn, the TJ’s closest to me would sometimes have a line of people outside, waiting to go in. Inside the store, the line wraps through the aisles–you’re better off grabbing a basket, hopping in line, and shopping as you weave throughout the store. Whole Foods has an insane (but effective) color-coded system for sending shoppers to open registers, but there is almost ALWAYS a line.

People say that living in a city is worth it for its conveniences, but man, oh man, what I wouldn’t give for an afternoon at Market Basket.

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nobody ever told me i couldn’t be whatever i wanted

America’s recent presidential election has sparked a number of discussions about race, gender, class, and privilege across the United States. Like any other country, ours has its flaws. As a woman in the United States, I will receive an unfairly short maternity leave when I decide to have babies. I will never make as much money as a man who does the same job as me. I will be scared to walk home alone at night regardless of how safe my neighborhood is. I will go to professional meetings where men will look at my breasts when they speak to me. I will be “asking for it” if I wear a short dress. I will be “hormonal” if something upsets me.

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I am not pretending that my life has been filled with hardship. I was lucky that my parents started saving money for my college tuition the day I was born. I was lucky that I grew up in a place where you don’t have to lock your doors. And I was lucky that nobody EVER told me that I couldn’t grow up to do or be whatever I wanted to.

To my parents, my sister and I are exempt from every negative thing you hear in the media about being female. To them, there is nothing we cannot do, even though we are women and will have to work twice as hard, look over our shoulders when we walk home at night, and be belittled over the course of our lives.

Because of this, they have no understanding of how terrified I am that someone accused of multiple sexual assaults has been elected president of a country I have loved and been proud of my entire life. Because of how hard they have worked, they believe that nothing bad will ever happen to us–and I am not allowed to be a victim. I am not allowed to talk about how many times things happened to me that I didn’t consent to; how many times my feelings were brushed aside; how many times I felt ashamed to be a woman.

I don’t consider myself a political person (and this blog is not a place for politics) but as someone who hopes to one day live in a peaceful world, it’s hard to remain silent.

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10 reasons why tyra banks is the og role model

During middle school and some of high school, my after school ritual was going home to watch The Tyra Show. It was on every day at 4pm, and I’d watch it on the couch while doing tedious homework and eating popcorn. This show was a blessing–we never had anything besides basic cable, and this was one of the non-primetime shows I actually enjoyed. Tyra taught me more about confidence and career than anyone else did in my early teens. Here is why she’s a pioneer role model–and someone else who doesn’t get enough credit.

1. First of all, she invented the smize.

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2. She hosted a reality show for TWENTY TWO seasons. Like, before America was even obsessed with reality television.

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3. She won two Daytime Emmy awards for Outstanding Talk Show, Informative. And boy, was it informative.

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4. She does it all–the girl can act, model, sing, and write.

 

5. Tyra founded her own production company.

6. She completed a management program at Harvard Business School, and was a guest lecturer at Stanford. Oh, s-nap.

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7. One of her most impressive feats is the TZONE program, which Banks launched to empower young women to be leaders. She also created a scholarship fund at her Catholic high school.

 

8. She’s been an advocate for body positivity before it was trendy.

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9. Tyra talked openly on her show about walking away from abusive relationships

10. Her beauty start-up makes a lipstick shade called “Ask for a Raise.” Like, how f***ing badass?

“My mom never taught me to be waiting for some prince on a white horse to swipe me off my feet.”

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a surefire sign of adulthood: getting real with your eating habits

It hit me the other day when I was checking out at Trader Joe’s that I eat like a five-year-old. I always have mini pizza bites and Morningstar buffalo wings in my freezer, and regularly eat a bowl of plain rice, polenta, or cereal for dinner. I drink apple juice out of boxes marketed for schoolchildren, and my favorite lunch is grilled cheese and tomato soup.

It’s weird because sometimes I feel like I come off as someone who’s all about organic food, loves to try new vegetables, and shops at farmer’s markets. All of these things are mostly true–but I also realized I’ve gotten to the point where I’m realistic about how and what I eat. Like when I make a salad at work–a year ago I would have loaded it up with a little bit of everything, and then ended up picking around certain things. I like the idea of tomatoes, but I’m not one to pop cherry tomatoes for a snack. And I’m probably only going to want one slice of cucumber. AND I’ll probably avoid that hard-boiled egg.

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This mentality of having an internal discussion about what I’m actually going to eat has translated to grocery shopping. You know those cardboard cartons of soup? I’m not gonna finish that before it expires. I’ll probably heat up one bowl, and then forget about it in the back of the fridge. Bagged lettuce? No way am I going to eat all that before it starts turning brown and squelchy. (Wow, for a food writer, these descriptions are on freaking point.)

I deeply believe that life is all about balance. Sure, I’ll have Kraft mac & cheese for dinner every once in a while, but I also eat a banana for breakfast everyday. I ate a donut yesterday, but I also spent 45 minutes in a cycling class. So even though, @TraderJoesCashier, the only things in my shopping basket the other day were cookie butter, Gouda cheese, avocados, yogurt, and fruit leather, I PROMISE you I bought a salad for lunch every day this week.

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