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i’m not sorry

I’ve recently noticed a lot of Internet literature (like this and this) regarding the habit of over-apologizing that plagues millennial women. I’d always thought that in addition to being used for a formal apology, saying “sorry” was just a polite thing to do, even if you haven’t done anything wrong.

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I say sorry when I feel like I’m bothering my boss too much via email, when I really just want to make sure I’m doing things correctly. I say sorry when I ask the cashier to pack my groceries in a reusable shopping bag. I say sorry when a waiter brings me a regular Coke instead of diet, even though I know I ordered correctly. In reality, I shouldn’t be sorry for any of these things–my existence and my preferences aren’t an inconvenience.

“I think along with ‘I’m sorry’ comes the fluttering eyes and bad posture and maybe the raised shoulder as if to protect yourself from what’s coming. I’m asking women to own up to that, to stop saying they’re sorry, and to stand up straight and to look at people in the eye and be cool! Just be cool with yourself.” -Mika Brzezinski

I recently resolved to reduce the amount of airtime I give the word “sorry.” It’s been a difficult task–I usually don’t even realize when I say it, so I made sure to consciously avoid apologizing (unless, of course, I was in the wrong). Someone knocks on the bathroom door while you’re using it? There’s no need to apologize for occupying it. Don’t want to get drinks with a guy who keeps badgering you? You shouldn’t be sorry for not wanting to waste your time.

Here are some more things to stop apologizing for:

  1. Asking someone to clarify something.
  2. Someone else’s mistake…it’s not your fault if the barista at Starbucks gives you whole milk instead of skim, even if she makes it seem like it’s a major inconvenience.
  3.  Declining an invitation somewhere. Say “no, thank you” instead.
  4. Leaving work early or calling out sick (as long as you’re actually sick).
  5. Not knowing the answer to something.
  6. Asking someone to move over on the train so they only take up one seat instead of two, so you can sit down.

blair waldorf gif from giphy.

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last week’s links

I thought I’d share some posts from other blogs and lifestyle websites that I particularly enjoyed reading last week and this week. These links are funny bits from the web that I happened to stumble upon, as well as some recent posts from my favorite sites–I scroll through Man Repeller and R29 almost everyday on my lunch break, and have been following them on Insta forever.

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1. “Only in New York” stories from Man Repeller.

2. This recipe for Come Fuck Me pasta, c/o Refinery29. (Will probably make this for myself this weekend, tbh.)

3. An insightful post from Cupcakes and Cashmere, one of the blogs that has inspired me since I was in high school. I love how Emily has branched out her editorial team to include younger/non-parents/unmarried women who are more relatable for my demographic.

4. Any Broad City fans?

5. Pete Wells’s review of my least favorite Food Network star’s Times Square restaurant.

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who you should follow on instagram (besides me)

If you follow @nycismyboyfriend on Instagram, you might have noticed that I frequently repost photos from other users. I want to be able to post quality content on a frequent, regular basis, so it’s often easier to use someone else’s photo of a mimosa on Sunday morning than it is to shower, get dressed and actually go to brunch (nobody goes to brunch every week, FYI). Plus, I’m kind of busy and don’t always have time to run around taking scenic photos of NYC.

As I’ve been perusing Insta for great photos to have on hand for my posts, I’ve noticed that there are a lot of really amazing (and funny) accounts out there. Here are some of my all-time favorites.

If you have a serious case of wanderlust, follow @LucyLaucht.

Manarola glowing at dusk

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Her photos are seriously stunning, and I always have to stop myself from re-posting every image she shares.

If you love food, follow @Food52.

Their dreamy, minimalistic approach to food photos makes for beautiful photos guaranteed to make your mouth water. Food52 also reposts a lot, so it’s a great way to find other accounts to follow.

If you love bright colors, follow @ABeautifulMess.

🌵❤☀ @rclayton #ABMlovesmurals

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ABM is also an amazing site that has tons of craft ideas and recipes, but their Insta feed is an always-welcome pop of color.

If you love NYC, follow @AlyssaInTheCity.

This Refinery29 writer posts great photos of everything from rosé to retro cars, and (of course) beautiful images of New York.

If you need a laugh, follow @GirlWithNoJob.

This is so true

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There are tons of accounts that share memes and funny text posts (@FuckJerry is also great), but this one is always on point.

 

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